I've always loved the energy of Christmas as most of us do. In these last five years I've discovered a newfound love for the holiday because I just love being with family and experiencing the joy that comes with the season. But there were a few years in my life that I dreaded it because it just made me hyperaware of all that was going wrong in my life. For people who are struggling, the holidays can make you feel even more alone and I get it. I feel you.
I recently watched the movie "The boy called Christmas" and I had a full circle moment. It's basically about this boy who takes this big adventure to this fairytale like place called elfhelm, bare with me here I promise I have a point. This little boy lives a very difficult life and he lives in a town full of miserable and poor people where basically all hope is gone. And yet, despite having absolutely nothing but a pet mouse, he still chooses to believe in this fabled village that he's only heard stories of.
Long story short, he travels through rough conditions and collapses in the snow when suddenly two elves find him and revive him with a spell but when he wakes up, he still doesn't see elfhelm. The old elf tells him in order to see the village he must dig deep into his heart and truly believe otherwise, he will never be able to see it. Then, there it is. A village of elves. This got me thinking, in life we literally manifest our realities by what we think, speak, and feel. We believe the stories we tell ourselves and after so long, those stories do become our reality.
You must believe in yourself in order to succeed
If you haven't read my last blog yet, go back and read it before you continue. When I was younger my dad dressed up as Santa multiple years in a row and ran through our house on Christmas Eve so that I would get all excited and go to bed. I truly with my whole heart believed in Santa and I will never forget the great lengths he went to ensure that I felt the magic of Christmas. I started to think, why don't we incorporate that magic into our every day lives? Why don't we bring that Christmas spirit into every season? This is why I never judge people for how early they decorate for holidays, do whatever it is that brings you more joy.
If you are struggling with believing in yourself right now, I challenge you to do something that brings you immense joy. Decorate for Christmas if you haven't already. Go to your favorite coffee shop. Buy that book or that new hot outfit you have been wanting. Go try that delicious restaurant you've been dying to dine at. Go gets drinks with you friend that you haven't seen in awhile. Go buy a real Christmas tree. Go for a fucking run if you know that lifts your spirits. Pay for someone else's coffee. Stop waiting around for joy and happiness to find you. You need to reach for it.
Daylights savings has us all fucked up. It's depressing I won't deny it. But what are you going to do about it? Stop fucking complaining and find a solution. We waste so much time bitching about life. Time we could be using to feel good. It's good to feel good yet we are always sabotaging our own happiness. All you need is a little boost to get you going. A small boost of energy to lift you up. Motivation won't keep you going but it will get you off your ass then it's up to you to do things that light you up. You accomplish more when you feel good. When you feel good, you spread that energy to others. By spreading love instead of negativity that comes from complaining all the time, you attract even more good into your life.
Day lights savings is just an excuse
You will always find reason to stay stuck because misery loves company. I am not downplaying whatever you are going through right now. Trust me, life has knocked me into the darkest of places and there are days when I have begged God to get me out of deep darkness. But I am the one that got myself out of those places. I had to initiate the movement for the higher power to meet me half way.
If you are battling depression, please seek help. Professional help. There's no shame in that, actually, you are fucking brave if you go to therapy. You are courageous if you choose to face your demons so that you can heal. I promise, I feel you but more importantly, I see you. I see your struggle and I acknowledge how fucking real it is. Depression has sucked my entire family up at many different points, including myself. But it won't disappear on its own. It won't just magically go away. Move your body. Take a shower on those hard days when you can't do anything else. Turn off the TV and get some fresh air. Use the online tools that are available and affordable like Better Help, which is an online therapy that has greatly benefited my life.
I want more for you but that doesn't really matter. You need to want more and better for yourself. I promise you my friend, there is so much greatness in this world. Don't let the news or social media fool you, there's so much love here. There are way more genuine people out there than you realize. There are endless tools to help you succeed. You have options. There is light at the end of every dark tunnel, you just have to fight to get there. Crawl if you can't walk.
Santa isn't real but magic is...
There's magic in this world. Magic comes in many forms. Women can create human life. Women who struggle to have babies, miraculously get pregnant one day. The love between two people who commit to each other for life, in sickness and in health, couples that stay together for 60+ years and not just because they think they should but because they adapt and grow and accept each other. Friendships that last a lifetime. Kids in foster care get adopted by their foster parents. Someone's cancer disappears out of no where. People go from living on the streets to building billion dollar companies. There is so much fucking magic in this world we just don't see it because we aren't trained to look for it. We are trained by the media to look for all the bad. But I promise, the magic is there, if you just open yourself up enough to see it.
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